When a man is asked what love feels like to him, more than likely his response would be that it relates to sexual passion and desire that is also possibly tinged with a touch of obsession for the woman. So what does a man experience is it love or lust or both. To understand the psychology in love where men are concerned makes it easier for any woman to understand her man better.
When women do fall in love they will experience moments of happiness and many great mixed feelings, where as men when they fall in love it is completely different to women. For love to hit initially there has to be some sort of attraction which will help to get the ball rolling for love to blossom. So how do you really know if a man is falling in love with you and what are the phases he will go through to get there. To make it easier for you to understand the psychology in love for men we have listed the phases for you to explore.
1. Tarzan likes Jane
A man has to have that instant physical attraction for you and this is based upon your physical appearance. It is true that men will initially become attracted to a part of the female anatomy and as men are all different they will no doubt like different things about a woman. There are men that get attracted to a curvy behind and for some the bigger the better and there are others that prefer the small behind. When men get older they will become attracted to the smaller things such as her lips, eyes, nose or how feminine and graceful she is within a mans presence. Therefore it has nothing to do with the whole package rather there has to be a specific appeal in a woman this is where he will start to like you.
2. The Hunter on the prowl
Men will basically hunt around to see which female will actually respond to any of there advances from the females that they do like, so if a woman does give him a signal that she does like him, this is when a man will stop his hunting and start to focus solely on his prey. Any advances that are made initially are very discreet and you would not call it obvious flirting, the man is looking for confirmation that if they do start to pursue you that something will happen. Therefore at this stage, if a man does like a woman he is not really bothered about the outcome, so if the female does reject him or does not respond to his advances then it makes it easy for him to move on to another woman, no doubt there are exceptions but this is usually the norm for what men would think at this point in time.
3. The Chase is on
When a man receives a positive response to his advances from a female that he really does like, then he will start the chase. This is where you will find that some signs will not be that obvious but the man will automatically assume that you do and he will pursue the woman and he will do this by showing her attention and will do his best to win her over, so the name of the game here is I am trying to get your attention. Once he has established that he has got your attention this is where things will move into the next phase of attraction.
4. The “I’m Going To Impress You”
By this stage women are falling in love, but for men they are no where near that point. All they are trying to do is impress you big time, they are doing this to prove to you that they are a worthy mate. They will plan dates, of course flood you with gifts, and they will also try and make you happy and in that same moment they hope they are making you happy and that they have also impressed you. No doubt the woman has held back but she will now succumb to his advances.
5. The“I Want You To Love Me”
So if a man knows that he is actually winning you over and that you are falling in love with him, this is the feel good factor and he knows more than ever that he has succeeded in what he set out to do and that was to get you to fall in love with him. No doubt he has also impressed you with his relationship skills this is all to prove to you that he does indeed make for a great lifelong partner for you. So at this stage he is waiting to hear the phrase “I love you” from your lips. Once he hears these words he knows he has got the trophy.
6. The Decision Phase
So once it gets to this stage a man knows that you have expressed your feelings and that they also know that they have got your love and commitment, so what will now unfold for both is that right up until this time he was only trying to prove to you that he is exactly what you were looking for in a man to love. This is where the problems will come out as he shows you his true colors which he hid from you while he was being the man of your dreams. Therefore he never was being his true self so the man you actually fell in love with is not the exact man you really think he is. A man will not wonder if you were right for them as his focus was in impressing you and it all was based on their initial physical attraction to you.
It is at this very phase that a man will wonder if a real relationship will blossom from this point. This is the stage where a man will really start to observe you as a real person and will see if they really do like you. Also at this particular stage is when a man will decide if you are worth trying for a long term relationship with them. In this phase a man will start to ask himself questions such as do I love her? Do I really want to be with her? Will I really be happy with her? Is she really the woman that I want? It is at this stage where it is also easy for a man to let go of a woman and it could be for pointless reasons. Men are genetically engineered to spread their seed, so when a man does eventually decide to love a woman that they want to be with she will have to be perfect in his perspectives but it is also the same for the woman the only big difference is that you made up your mind much sooner.
7. The “I Love You” from him
So if at this point if it does not feel right for a man then he will leave you for good, or he will start to ignore you if it was only a fling. In the case where a man does want to give love a go he will be ready for it, he will no doubt succumb to his feelings and will also become overwhelmed with feelings of love for you, this is where you will see that he will start to take care of you, and he will act jealous, and will do all the other things that do come with love. To true men do make a decision on whether to fall in love or not and the reason behind this is that men do not want to get hurt and their defence mechanisms do kick in to protect them.
Now that you know how men fall in love then be a wise woman and do not give in to all of their advances, so if you really want a particular man do not give in to his advances and do not say “I love you” when he wants you to say it, so do go ahead and turn his world upside down and what you will find is a man falling helplessly in love with you and not being able to control his own emotions for you. So with matters of the heart, be wise do show the man that you do like him, but let him pursue you, but in the same instance help to bring out the real man that he is, you do want someone that is showing their real self to you, so be smart let a man tell you that he loves you first, as in this way it will show you that you have won him over.
But to keep any relationship alive it does require effort on both parts as a relationship is about having a job that you love doing, so do put into it as it will contribute to any happiness that you can share with each other.