Are you in a relationship that is experiencing problems and you both are not so happy any more, finding that you are argueing that much more over petty things, your sex life is now suffering also? Well time to know how to fix relationship fast. Of course every relationship will have its moments, where we will experience moments of wanting to end the relationship completely but when crunch comes to shove you realize that the loving feelings are still there. Understandable it happens in so many relationships and you are not the only couple that experiences highs and lows. We have great ways in which you can help yourself to fix your relationship with your partner.
You are number one
When we get into relationships we tend to give too much and forget about nurturing ourselves, this is where you can start to feel like a bit of a door mat. So the best thing for you to do now is to tell your partner that things are changing, and that you do need more “me time” when your partner will hear this he will start to understand that is a valid reason why the relationship is going through rough waters. So do take the time out to pamper yourself, find time to go have a coffee with friends, get active and start exercising. You are not being selfish rather you are doing something that will bring you together. Your partner will appreciate the fact that you are starting to prioritize yourself and will be happy with the results as you will be more at ease relaxed and happy.
This is where you and your partner can really take time out to sit down and reflect on what is no longer working for you, what changes are to be made in the relationship and how you can resolve problems more effectively. The purpose of this is to have time out where you both solely respect each other, listen and interact with each other.
Have a rule if it starts to turn into an argument then it is time out, and better to resolve another aspect of the relationship that is a concern for you both. When both of you can learn to agree to disagree with respect for each other this is the solution to all your problems. We are all very unique beings and all want to be heard and all want to resolve issues that are a win win situation. So be adults about it and maybe wear each others shoes that can be a really big eye opener of why you have the issues that you do today.
The money factor
What you will find is that money does create a lot of stress in many a relationship. Couples worry and argue about it constantly. If you find you and your spouse are starting to badger each other over the bottom line, it’s time to have a penny-pinching powwow. This is where you will need to make an active plan on how you will manage the money such as to combine it or keep it separate or create a joint account and keep some separate. So in making the final decision it has to be agreed upon by both rather than one party.
Be assertive rather than a nagging
If you have requests and you want things done, rather than getting up set and blaming your partner etc it is best to make your request with a smile also be sincere and encouraging, you can also rest your hand on your partners thigh and say honey the place is rather a mess and I am really tired, could you help me tidy up as I really could do with your help right now. This is a better way rather than stating that you are always doing everything and they are too lazy to help you. So be smart be assertive in a nice way, they will be more than happy to oblige if you do ask nicely.
Take the fighting gloves off
If you and your partner are finding that from a simple thing an argument has started and it is esculating it is better to turn around and agree with each other that it is getting to heated and take time out instead. And rediscuss when both are not so hot under the collar.
The joy of sex
Have sex and plenty of it as being intimate with your partner is vital to your relationship and it will be one of the first aspects of a relationship that does suffer, if feelings are floundering. When you have regular sexual encounters it always makes for a great way to reconnect and rekindle with your partner, another great way to keep your relationship filled with intimacy is a simple smile across a room, a kiss, a touch, etc. What is important to know is that regular sex results in emotional fulfillment, better communication, security and reassurance."
Let go of grudes
If you have some bad memories then do let them go, when you hang on to them, they can sabotage your relationship, so rather than hanging onto them let them go, write them down if you must then you can burn it. You could also set a timer for a certain amount of time. It might be 10 minutes. It might be 30. It might be the whole day. The point is: Give yourself as long as you need to really wallow in the misery of these grudges. Savor them. Get angry about them. Mutter about them. Do whatever you need to do to get sick and tired of them, and once you are done, you can say, ‘I will not think about these anymore. These grudges have lost their usefulness then take a match and burn them.
Respect and appreciation for each other
It is important to have respect and appreciation for each other, as time passes we get complacent in a relationship and start to not bother to show appreciation rather we start to take our partner for granted, in turn they will start to resent you, as they are no longer appreciated or respected. So it is important that you do keep the respect and appreciation alive in your relationship.